Thursday, February 28, 2019

A Different Direction

Hello Everyone!


This sign spoke volumes to me when I saw it at  Target the other day

On February 1st I mentioned that I was taking a little blog break, unbeknownst I was going to need to take a break. I was contemplating if I was going to write today's post because I needed time to gather my thoughts and process my feelings. About 3 weeks ago I moved out of my apartment. It was somewhat of a quick decision, but a good decision...my family discussed moving after Christmas. I mentioned 2 years ago when I moved there from the house I was living in it was time to go because of all the drama that came with the landlord and the house itself. 2 years later the same situation constant drama, disrespect, and disregard from the new property manager and the new property owner. Let's not even talk about the rent going up, and all the other constant fees. So many tenants complained about various problems only to be given a bad attitude as a response by management or a quick fix on maintenance issues. Whoever gets my old apartment, I hope they don't mind that heat rarely works. I started noticing more people moving out of the complex on a weekly basis. I didn't think I would become one of those people that left.

I feel conflicted because for the first time since that 2015 here in South Carolina that left my family flood victims, I felt like this was finally home. I was happy until about 4 months ago when management was changed as I stated earlier in my post. I know this move was for the best. It makes no sense to pay to live somewhere and be completely disregarded as a human being. People are more than just a rent check. Sometimes you're lead in a direction that you should have chosen a long time ago.


When life gives you lemons, make lemonade...

I can see why people own their own homes. That is something my family wants to look into. For now my family and I decided to stay in an extended stay until we find something permanent. It's not the same as living in my apartment, but it has an apartment feel. I am blessed and I am grateful.

The last past few weeks I've been all in my feelings. Even though I know my family and I made the right decision, that doesn't always make me feel better. I've felt angry, frustrated, disappointed, confused, lost, and relieved just to name a few of my emotions. I've prayed about it and as I stated it was for the best. Moving can be stressful and exhausting process, but I don't look at this as a loss, more of a blessing in disguise. Everything in life happens for a reason. All I can do is continue to pray and ask God for guidance and remain optimistic about the future.


I will probably extend my break a little longer, but I Should be back by the second week of March :)


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24 comments:

Susie said...

Hi Sweet Pilar. I have missed you. Honey the way you described that new management/ownership complex deal..that is exactly what happened with my daughter. She moved to a town closer to all of us. She loved that apartment...but she noticed people moving all the time. Well once the heat was up this past summer...she learned the AC ran all the time and never cooled. That is a power eater. Then they were raising the rent...she asked that since she faithfully paid her rent on time , could be she be exempted from the raise in rent...well no, and not one of the management people were willing to even work with her. they raised the rent higher than she could afford. So she moved to an older less room apartment complex. It's wonderful !!! Affordable rent, near the gym and walking trails. She totally loves it...it is tiny...but I really like it. Instead of out in the open with no trees , this one is in a more neighborhood like area. So sweetheart, hopefully you will find something you can truly love. I pray for you, xoxo,love, Susie

Red Rose Alley said...

Pilar, I hope you find a place to settle in soon. And so sorry you had to go through all of this. Yes, moving is exhausting. California housing is so expensive, so I totally understand. I love your good attitude through it all, and asking God for guidance is the best thing to do. You are a wonderful and wise woman, and I wish you well in this journey.

~Sheri

Lisa said...

Thanks for the update! Glad your doing ok and yes, its all going to work out. Check into buying a small home. Sometimes house payments are less than rent and its YOURS! Keep praying and I will too. God has plans for you guys.
Hugs
Lisa

Anonymous said...

Good luck with everything!

Pam Jackson said...

I am so sorry about what you are have been dealing with. It is a shame when you have a landlord that don't opt to keep a place up. In renting you pay enough that you should not have to deal with that sort of stuff. But you have probably don't the best thing you could have done and that was to move. Hoping the living arrangement now works for you till you find what will work even better for you. Take care of you.

The Dainty Dolls House said...

Take all the time you need. It sounds like a very tough time, but I am glad you are away from those landlords, they didn't sound too great and no one should live without heat and an apartment that works as it should. I know it will feel like a struggle at times, but you will come through this and feel much better. Taking time is the right thing to do!! Take care of you xx

ALLIE NYC said...

Ugh this sounds like a nightmare. I hear you moving is sucks. I moved 11 times when I lived in Seattle not fun and I had some bad experiences too, though more with roommates then landlords but it is amazing how some of them get away with what they do. But then look who is in the White House...

Yes I too have thought of owning. Times today are quite stressful. And going on YT does not help hahaa who are all these rich millennials??

Allie of
www.allienyc.com

Regine Karpel said...

Praying.

Rowena @ rolala loves said...

I've been wondering how you were doing Pilar. I'm sorry to hear about the situation with your apartment. It couldn't have been easy for you to come to a decision to move out of your apartment but it sounds like you did the right thing. Just trust in that and that something better is meant for you and your family. Take care and good luck with everything.

Marie said...

Pilar I'm so sorry to hear you're going through all this. It sounds like your old apartment community changed for the worse with the new management. I'm glad that you're living in a more comfortable environment. I have faith that everything will work out for you and your family.

Linda Libra Loca said...

I am very sorry to learn about your issues with the land lord. Things like that can be so frustrating. And moving is indeed very stressful. I hope you´ll find a permanent place soon and everything goes smoothly.

Ivana Split said...

Moving is one of the most stressful things we can do, that's what I remember reading somewhere and I think it's true. It is hard to leave a place one thinks of as home, even when there are issues with the landlords and management, some people choose to stay foot, but in the end probably the best option is to move out. If you have a bad landlord, that's a source of constant stress as well. I remember how stressed we were when we moved into our new house. Our mortgage rate is higher than we would have liked, but there is peace in knowing you own your own home.

Pilar said...

Thanks Susie. I've missed you too. I hope you and Ted have a great week. I was frustrated with moving, but I know it was for the best. I'm glad your daughter loves her new apartment. I'm remaining optimistic.

Pilar said...

Thanks Sheri. I've prayed a lot about all of this. I feel that having a bad attitude about this situation will not help anything. Sure, I've been frustrated, but not as frustrated as I would've been if we continued to stay there. I'm looking forward to something better.

Pilar said...

Thanks Lisa, and you're welcome. We've been wanting to buy a house, but my family and I are seriously considering that now. That's what's so great about home ownership, it belongs to you. I'm definitely keeping God first, and staying in constant prayer.

Pilar said...

Thanks

Pilar said...

Thanks Pam. The apartment was really nice, but it was always drama. They did quick fixes on maintenance issues which would usually result in us calling the office for maintenance to re-fix the issues in our apartment. The poor attitude of the apartment manager was beyond disrespectful. Like I said it was time to move. The living arrangement at the extended stay is nice. It has an apartment feel. After having an ER scare last month from stress, I'm taking care better care of myself.

Pilar said...

Thanks Kizzy. At first it was tough and stressful dealing with everything. Once I moved I did start feeling better about things. I still have moments of frustration, but it feels so much better to be out of that negative environment. I have faith that I will come through all of this.

Pilar said...

Allie, I won't lie it did feel like a nightmare. Once things calmed down I could think more clearly and see the bigger picture. The move was truly for the best. I agree, it's amazing what people get away with, and like you mentioned, look at who's in the White House. It's sad when you think about it..

I wondered the same lol about the rich millennials. I think it's great though that millennials are prospering financially through these tough times.

Pilar said...

Thanks

Pilar said...

Thanks Rowena, and I'm doing ok. It wasn't an easy decision, but it was the best decision. I agree there is something better meant for my family.

Pilar said...

Thanks Marie. I noticed major changes for the worst once new management took over last Summer. It was basically a nightmare ever since. I'm glad I'm in a better environment the stress was becoming too much. I also have faith that things will work out for the best.

Pilar said...

Thanks Anne. I'm looking forward to a better future in a new home.

Pilar said...

I think that's too, especially after this experience. Moving and packaging was exhausting, but it's funny because once I got in the car to leave I felt relief even though I felt sadness. You're right the best thing is to move when you constantly have issues from the landlord. Sadly I feel more people are going to continue to move from that complex. Like I said I constantly saw people moving out. We're really looking into owning our home.

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