During the 8 years I've been blogging I try to focus on social issues. Domestic Violence is one topic that I have discussed before and after I found myself getting out of a domestic violence relationship. 4 years ago I shared my own personal story. In my initial post when I first shared my story in 2017, I mentioned that most of the domestic violence I endured was verbal, emotional and mental abuse.
Dealing with a narcissistic abuser is exhausting, and it took time for me to find myself again. All the I love yous wasn't enough to make me stay especially when his actions didn't reflect the word love. One thing I did once I ended things is make myself a priority again. I've said this numerous times on my blog, self care isn't selfish.
Unbeknownst to me at the time I didn't realize that I wasn't making myself a priority. All the negativity took a toll on my self esteem and the perception I had for myself. I began to get back to doing things that I loved. I started putting on makeup and dressing cute again just because. Anytime I started to feel depressed, I thought about how good my life was going to be without him in it. I allowed myself to acknowledge my feelings, but I refused to stay in a dark lonely place. As I mention that was 4 years ago.
You can find happiness after domestic violence. You have to start with yourself. Self love and self care are two elements that are so important. I love myself enough to know that I deserve to be happy.