Sunday, October 2, 2022

Dating After Domestic Violence

 Hello Everyone, 


My original drawing from 2019. If you choose to share my drawing please credit me for my artwork. Thanks!

I thought I would share my thoughts about dating after experiencing domestic violence. 

If you want to catch up on my experience about Domestic Violence, see links at the end of this post to my previous posts over the years.

I've been single since 2017, but it's not because I'm afraid to have a relationship. I just haven't dated any guys that I want to be in a relationship with.

Maybe that sounds harsh, but it's honest. I think there some truth to the statement "You'll be alone for a while when you know your worth." I don't think the statement is fully true, but I notice that since I'm not going to put up with a man treating me any kind of way I have been single for quite some time. I'm not looking for perfection because no one is perfect, but I won't be mistreated. Please remember that emotional abuse is a form of domestic violence. I can't stress that enough.

I don't base my love life on the toxic experiences I've had in the past, but I do use those experiences on what to avoid. I do believe in love, but love is also respect. 

Surviving Domestic Violence (2017)

Surviving Domestic Violence: One Year Later (2018)

Surviving Domestic Violence: Two Years Later (2019)

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month (2020)

Finding Myself After Domestic Violence (2021)

20 comments:

Anonymous said...

You are so brave for sharing your story.

Pilar said...

Thank you!

R's Rue said...

Thank you for sharing.
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Lovely said...

Thanks for sharing. Have a great day!
xoxo
Lovely
www.mynameislovely.com

Marie said...

Thank you for sharing your story over the years Pilar. I know that it's helping people!

Red Rose Alley said...

It's good that you are being cautious with the man you want to spend time with. You are very special, Pilar, and the right one will come to you when the time is right. Your words are hopeful to anyone who is going through this in their life.

~Sheri

Rowena @ rolala loves said...

Good for you Pilar that you haven't let your past experience with domestic violence keep you from dating. Even better that it has made you stronger and helps you to stay away from situations that aren't worth your time. We all do better knowing our worth.

ALLIE NYC said...

I agree with you whole heartedly and don't blame you for being selective.

Allie of
www.allienyc.com

Hena Tayeb said...

That statement about knowing your own worth is so important.
Love that Halloween nail kit.. so fun!

Lisa said...

I was in an abusive marriage but when I finally got the courage to escape, I had his child (alone) then I found someone that made me feel safe. We have been together since.
Domestic Violence comes in so many forms. I was abused in all the ways. 31 years later, I still have a fear of running into him somewhere. My daughter has never met him and was adopted by my new husband. Im fine with that.

Please girls, if your in abusive relationship, get out! It will never get better if you stay and will get worst if you leave and go back. Just make a run for it and have someone to watch your back.

Pilar said...

You're welcome

Pilar said...

You're welcome, and same to you

Pilar said...

You're welcome

Pilar said...

Thank you

Pilar said...

Thank you

Pilar said...

Thank you

Pilar said...

Thank you

Pilar said...

I remember you shared with me your story Lisa. I'm glad you got out of that situation safely. You're very brave and strong. You did what was best for you and your daughter.

Pilar said...

You're welcome, and same to you.

Pilar said...

I remember you shared your story with me Lisa. I'm glad you left that abusive marriage and found happiness for you and your daughter. There is hope and happiness after domestic violence

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