Drawing by me, Pilar
Since the two years that have passed since I found myself being a survivor of domestic violence, I realized that I'm stronger than I gave myself credit for back then.
Drawing by me, Pilar
I noticed that abusers are usually narcissistic and fantastic pretenders. Sure you may hear that, but unless you have dealt with a narcissist, their behavior can be very unbelievable.
Someone once asked me did I fear dating and relationships because of my past experience with domestic violence. My answer to that question was no. I'm more cautious, but I don't fear dating and relationships. I don't let one bad experience define my future. I owe it to myself to be in a happy healthy relationship.
Drawing by me, Pilar
You heart is precious, and it's so important that you don't expose your heart to the wrong people. Pay attention to others energy, because the things you ignore now, are typically the reasons you will leave later.
Drawing by me, Pilar
If you're in a domestic violence relationship, you can get out. There is hope for a better and brighter future for you.
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34 comments:
I have been there. It is scary. People often ask “Why can’t the abused just leave the relationship?” To some its a life or death situation. I managed to get away and live my life safe. His 2nd wife was not so lucky.
Most abusers are charmers and people will see them as the victim instead of you.
I almost never speak of my past abuse but things will trigger that haunting feeling.
Domestic abuse is real. It’s mind altering and sickening.
I’m glad we are survivors.
Lisa
Very brave woman to tell your story. Best wishes!
It is true that narcissist and abusers are often the most charming people on the outside, they have to be because that is how they trick and lure people in. It is definitely a topic worth talking about. Emotional and domestic violence can leave lasting consequences, so it is something we should educate ourselves about. It is great that you were able to find the courage to get out of that situation. Thank you for sharing your story.
You are a strong woman and don't you ever forget it! I am sure it took a long time to heal but you also have done that. There are women that can't tell their story like you cause they failed to get away before it was to late. You are STRONG....stay that way.
Yes, so brave in sharing your thoughts on your own experiences and hardships, Pilar. I think it's so wise and good that you don't allow your past to interfere with the beautiful way you live now. One of my favorite sentences you wrote is "Your heart is precious, and it's so important that you don't expose your heart to the wrong people." That is true for all of us. And these days, I'm cautious myself. Thanks for sharing your story, Pilar. You really are a special one.
~Sheri
Thanks for sharing your experience with us. It takes a strong person to do this.
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It is mind blowing how prevalent it is. I am glad you are out of that situation and are a surviver. Lisa's comment is unnerving. Wow, this is a topic that we need to take very seriously as a society.
Allie of
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So glad you are out of a bad situation!!
Pilar, I'm glad that you left your abusive relationship. You are strong, beautiful woman and your story will continue to inspire people there is a happy life after abuse.
Can completely relate to this post!! Abusive people are narcissistic and others tend to never see it about them, so the victim seems like they're making it up. Am happy you are away from that and continuing to heal, its a very long process that takes a long time. Am proud of your progress!! And I hope you continue and have a life full of happiness!! x
You are indeed a very brave person, and strong for surviving the relationship and for speaking up on that topic.
Przeżyłam koszmar ale zamknęłam tamten rozdział
Mózg ma takie możliwości, że resetuje wszystko, tylko nie można się oddawać rozpamiętywaniu
DOBRZE odnaleźć się w pasji, w tym co kochasz, aby nie zostawić w sobie agresji
Ona lubi obudzić się całkiem nieoczekiwanie...
Maluj, biegaj, pływaj, czytaj , kochaj ,ale głową nie powracaj
Ktoś mi się niedawno zapytał, dlaczego się rozwiodłas?
Nie pamiętam
I to jest prawda
Czasem syn, jego zachowania uruchomiają falę niechcianych uczuć, ale następuje to nieczęsto...
Interesting.
I'm so sorry that you were in such a situation Pilar. I'm just glad you're a survivor and you've managed to move past it which I'm sure hasn't been easy. You're very courageous for sharing story as it can help someone else and i hope you continue to make progress with your healing.
You are brave and smart, Pilar! You know how to get away and to heal your "wound".
That is so tragic what happened to your ex's 2nd wife. I don't think some people realize the danger you can be in when you leave an abusive relationship. It's so important to have a safety plan in situations like that. Two years ago when I shared my story on my blog, I wanted to inspire and encourage anyone who found themselves in a similar situation.
Abusers charm is their manipulation. It's sick and I agree the emotional aspect can take time to overcome. I had such a hard time taking about my experiences with domestic violence when I stated going to therapy again. I don't have nightmares like I used to, but I still have triggers.
I'm glad we are survivors too Lisa.
Thank you
Thank you Ivana, and you're welcome. That's exactly how I got lured in. He was so charming and sweet at first. Then the mask came off and he showed the true monster he was. You're right emotional abuse can leave lasting consequences. It's so important to talk about this subject. Education is key.
Thank you Pam. It took a long time for me to heal. I don't feel emotionallly hurt like I used too. I'm proud of myself for being strong, removing myself from that situation, and sharing my story with others.
Thank you Sheri, and you're welcome. I owed it to myself not to let the past interfere with my future. There is life after DV. I've learned that it's so important that you don't expose my heart to the wrong people that includes, relationships, friendships, and family members. I'm cautious as well. Anyone not good for me I don't include them in my life.
Thank you Nerline, and you're welcome.
Gracias Carolina
Thank you Allie. Lisa's comment is very unnerving and sad because so many horrible things can happen in dv relationships. I agree this is a topic society needs to take seriously.
Thank you Mellie. I glad in no longer in that situation too.
Thank you Marie
Thank you Kizzy. You're right some victims are accused of making the abuse up which is sad. Abusive people are usually very narcissistic. Their charm and manipulative ways can fool so many people.
Thank you Anne
Dziękuje za przeczytanie
Thanks for reading
Thank you Rowena. It hasn't been easy, but healing takes time. I'm proud of all my progress in the past two years and sharing my story.
Thank you Evi
Hi Pilar, I am proud of you. Yes, sweet girl, you are much braver than you know. My daughters' father was abusive to me...we were so young and I did not know any better than to just take it. But once I got away from him ...I knew I would live a better life. Show my daughter how I could make it and we would all be safe. I will one day tell you all the things they say they learned from me. Here is an example. My daughter Kathy divorced after her son was in high school. I told her to wish her ex the very best, but he would never be able to hurt her again. No mean talk or put downs, and absolutely no hitting. So she and her ex stayed friends after the hurt of divorce eased. We all attended her son's college graduation and I swear you could have never wiped the smile off her son's face for anything. He was proud his parents and grandparents all treated each other well. I know no all breakups end that well. Blessings to you my dear friend, xoxo, Susie
Thank you Susie. I remember you mentioned before you left your abusive ex. You should your daughters true strength. I imagine leaving your ex husband wasn't easy, but you did what was best. I said something similar to what you and your daughter said about not being able to hurt you again. It was a very liberating feeling to be free of all the hurt he caused. Once I was finally done I haven't looked back. I think that's so good you all can treat each other well despite the negative things that happened. Blessings to you as well.
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